“Put yourself in the other person’s shoes. Try to think where they are coming from. See the situation from both sides.”
This is the only life lesson my father had taught me.
I always try to see things from the other side, be open to compromises, not to judge hastily, to have compassion and forgiveness.
But there is another side to this lesson. Know your enemy. Put yourself in your enemy’s shoes. Know what motivates him. What is he passionate about? What are his weaknesses? What does he need to make him stronger? What is he afraid of?
Then use this knowledge to destroy him. A person does not become your enemy unless he has done you wrong more than once. First time can be a mistake, a lesson learned. It is your job to teach him why he was wrong, show him the right way. Do not hold resentment or anger.
But if it happens the second time, do not show mercy. For it is no longer an accident. For it was done with knowledge and purpose. For he is responsible for his actions as he knew what was right and wrong.
Cut him down. Cut him down mercilessly. Sabotage his goals. Take away his resources. Use his weaknesses to wear him down, make it so that he cannot awake from his nightmare. Make him lose confidence in himself.
Utter destruction. If you do not make a stand, right here and now, he will continue to test the waters, getting worse and worse. End it once it for all. Make it so that he’s too afraid to bother you again. Make it so that everyone knows, understands and respects you. Make it so that no one will ever challenge you again.
Ender Wiggins from “Ender’s Game” by Olson Scott Card
“I have to win this now, and for all time, or I’ll fight it every day and it will get worse and worse.”
“The power to cause pain is the only power that matters, the power to kill and power to destroy, because if you can’t kill then you are always subject to those who can, and nothing and no one will ever save you.
“All or nothing. End them or end us.”